I've complained many times about provocative thread titles that mislead people, specifically coming from Bytemaster, since forever. This is another example of a thread that just should not have been posted. Projects like Ethereum (and this should also be the case for Bitshares) have long term plans and strategies that they follow and execute. A meeting like the one described here is incredibly common, everybody wants to collaborate but to suggest that a market-changing event will (or even that it might) come out of it, unless agreed on in advance by both parties looks like the one spreading the word is trying to "borrow the thunder" of the one that was planning to keep it quiet. Now any announcement that COULD be made, will be overshadowed by this pre-announcement.
Of course, this is Open Source so there was never much of a chance that Ethereum would have a formal partnership with Bitshares - They can just take the parts they like and ignore the social contract since the only people that would impact negatively would be the Bitshares community, which is a fraction the size of the ethereum community and pre-order base.
So with that in mind, really all you could hope to do with this announcement is to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory. You had a nice, productive and foundational encounter with Vitalik. You probably undid almost all the damage from the Gotcha video from Florida (the ethereum guys thought that was a really low blow), but then you reward him for making the trip out to see you by raising the idea of a merger or partnership which you admit was not even discussed along with talking about the financial rewards that would be given to this community (where does that come from? at the expense of everyone who is getting it and who is not in this community) which then requires Vitalik to spend his time doing damage control, costing both time and credibility within his organization. Next time will he come see you, or will he say "it's more trouble than it's worth?"
I am not suggesting you undertake a policy of GIANT SECRECY, just that you really try to filter your posting on the forum because it has a very real impact outside of the forum, and that's your real problem. People here already love you no matter what you do.